What's your fantasy?

Maybe your fantasy involves sexy stripper Matthew McConaughey
from 'Magic Mike.'
Photo Credit: Claudette Barius, USMagazine.

"I have this fantasy, right..."

No, readers, if you sent this in a question, or a question like it, I do not think that you are strange.

Sexual fantasies took the title for the most awkward topic that came up in my Human Sexuality course two semesters ago. At the utterance of "fantasy," the students looked at their desks, and the Professor Jamie Winters laughed. People fail to both realize and acknowledge that sexual fantasies are completely normal.

Web MD listed five sexual fantasies most often occurring in both men and women:

• "Feeling romantic emotions during a sexual relationship
• Fantasies in which atmosphere and location are important
• Ones involving a romantic location
• Receiving oral sex
• For men, having sex with two women"

While both men and women have sexual fantasies, they typically differ in content.

Dr. Laura Berman wrote about women's most reported sexual fantasies. Women were more likely to want to be dominated by a man, and more likely to have homosexual fantasies. Women more readily fantasize about BDSM activities, as well. For many women, the thought of being controlled, taken by surprised, or even spanked and handcuffed is a typical, rather than abnormal, fantasy.

As reported by Men's Fitness, most women answered similarly in a survey they gave about what they would want in their sexual relationship; what fantasies they would want to come true, in a sense. Women reported similar answers to those reported in Dr. Berman's surveys. On average, women want to be "held hostage," undressed, and they want it rough. Women typically fantasize about their male partners charging in and taking control.

No matter what the fantasy, you are not weird or abnormal. Not only are sexual fantasies normal, but they are healthy.